A Note for Parents


— Jagdish Parikh

There is no more influential or challenging role than the task of parenting a teenage daughter. We believe that parents are heroes. That’s why we are here support you, to provide a “creative antidote” to the relentless pressures that confront young people—the moment they walk out the door or look down at their screens. Our mission is to give girls the tools and resources they need to become their best, most authentic, most confident selves.

In all our work with teens, we’ve found several universal themes. Teens today feel overwhelmed by both academic and social pressure: the pressure to succeed and the pressure to conform. What girls really want is a safe place to speak their truth, be themselves, and feel connected and supported. This is precisely what we work to provide.

Q: What’s the practical benefit of raising more confident, intuitive daughters?

A:  A girl doesn’t need to buy all the latest beauty trends when she knows how beautiful she already is. Nor will a girl succumb to social pressure—from media, peers, and boys—knowing her inherent value and power as a person. Likewise, when it comes to choosing a college, a major, and a career, an intuitive girl will be exceptionally efficient and focused. When a girl is connected to her intuition, she knows who is and isn’t safe, who she can and can’t trust, and what is and isn’t right for her. Consequently, you can always trust her to make the best and smartest choices.

Q: What’s the practical benefit of writing?

A:  While social mediums like Twitter and Instagram allow us to communicate with simplicity and breadth, writing ensures complexity and depth. The more a girl writes, the more she understands who she is. This enables her to cultivate a unique point of view, the single most essential element in all exceptional writing—including college application essays! Likewise, the more girls enjoy writing and the more often they write, the more their technique improves, as well. Last but not least, a girl who knows how to connect with herself will also know how to connect—and effectively communicate—with the people around her. (Including her parents!)

Q:  How does this program support your daughter’s growth and development?

A:  In his book Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, Dr. Dan Siegel talks about the importance of “emotional stimulation, social engagement, novelty, and creative exploration”—all experiences that are directly supported by expressive activities like writing as part of a group. The experience of being heard and validated in a positive writing community also helps to cultivate the qualities Daniel Goldman has written most famously about, including emotional intelligence, social intelligence, and the ability to focus. The more a girl writes, the more she discovers who she is, what she values, and how she wants to contribute to the world.

Q: How does this program support my daughter’s academic and career success?

A:  As Daniel Pink wrote in his book, A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule The Future, most of our left-brain skills can now be automated and outsourced. “In an age of abundance… mastery of design, empathy, play and other seemingly ‘soft’ aptitudes is now the main way for individuals and firms to stand out in a crowded marketplace.” At the Intuitive Writing Project, we believe that creative writing and self-reflection can foster precisely the kind of whole-brain thinking our world needs most. Likewise, there is no more persuasive college application than the one written with heart-felt conviction and an original point of view. It is passion that opens doors. And it is intuition that helps a girl know which doors to knock on.

You can also read about the growing research demonstrating the value of a creative education, the way activities like expressive writing teach us to think critically and discover more creative solutions to global problems.



Q:  How do I know if my daughter is a good fit for this program?

Because the work we do is both emotional and philosophical, our programs are best suited for self-reflective girls, the ones who are willing to ask deep questions and look within themselves for answers. While we use writing as “a way in” (and the more you write, the better your writing becomes), this is first and foremost a personal development program. Your daughter doesn’t need to “love” writing to do this program, but she’ll get a lot more out of it if she enjoys the writing process.

Q: How can I enroll my daughter?

A:  We strive to tailor our programs to the specific needs of each individual girl. To learn more or to schedule a complimentary consultation call with the Executive Director, Elizabeth Perlman, write her at elizabeth@intuitivewritingproject.org